The answer to the above question will likely be different dependent on who you ask and the correct answer is likely different to the true answer. If anyone reads this, I’m going to get a lot of heat. Oh well, here goes…
It is not uncommon for men to be slaughtered for judging a woman solely on her appearance and that man’s physical attraction towards her. Perhaps this is because men have a tendency to be more open about their attraction (or “unattraction”) with comments or gestures ;). A man may be politically incorrect for telling a woman she is too fat or too ugly to go on a date with (or swipe left) but to what extent should men filter their feelings for the benefit of women?
I understand it is important for everyone to have the largest ego possible and the more confident a person is with him/herself the more attractive he or she appears. That being said, if it is not okay for a man to objectify a woman then how come it is okay for the world to objectify Justin Trudeau?
Only a couple days after this “historical” election, the world has noticed Canada. Not because the fine citizens of this country fought against their current government to take back control over the land in which they believe is theirs but because they have the hottest leader. Will Justin Trudeau’s reign over the country be written in Canadian History textbooks as the hottest Prime Minister of Canada? Not likely. But that’s all anyone is talking about.
So why does it matter?
Just this morning, while I was busing to work, I overheard a
woman female loudly talking on her phone about a guy who added her on Facebook. She stated “I didn’t accept because I don’t like bald guys”. Ouch!
We all have our physical preferences in a partner but for society to harshly criticize men for judging women on their appearance is entirely hypocritical. I truly believe it is not men as a population that overemphasizes the “size” of a woman dictating the ideal match however the views women have of themselves. I am not blaming women, however, I am blaming society; Hollywood, entertainment, the media, Jared, etc. All of these vehicles promote skinny and this is not a new notion.
Back to bus girl: she was talking very loudly on the bus, I even spoke with the lady beside me about the phone call and how neither of us would want strangers hearing about our private conversations meanwhile throwing a few curse words in the mix. Real classy! I digress. She was needlessly shouting at her friend, maybe her grandmother who has a hearing disability, as I had difficulty focusing on my Developmental Psychology textbook due to her lack of volume control. I did not see her while she was speaking but the more she talked the more I pictured her in my mind. Her stop was prior to mine and I ended up seeing what she looked like as she exited the bus. I hit the nail on the head. Enough said.
My point is, men are people too, believe it or not. We have feelings. Just like you, we too have parts of ourselves that we are not overly excited about and would love to change. We all want six-packs. None of us want to be short. NOBODY WANTS TO BE BALD (ok maybe, Howie Mandel is an exception). But it’s still socially acceptable to judge the Prime Minister of Canada because he is a descendant of many Greek gods whom blessed Canada with a better Justin than our previous Justin.
Different men are attracted to completely different types of women (and men). My advice to women is be who you are, but be healthy. Healthy doesn’t mean Barbie, healthy means you make healthy life choices. If you don’t know what healthy choices are, you’re doing it wrong. Don’t feel sorry for yourself if you don’t like a feature about yourself. Don’t try to fix it either; unless it’s unhealthy like continuously consuming poutine and Beaver Tails then you should probably stop. Embrace who you are and there will be a man that will embrace you too. Feel sorry for yourself and men will feel sorry for you. [insert additional cliche here]
Disclaimer: I understand and accept the views brought forward by many feminist-types preaching equal rights and I do agree on most issues. However I disagree that women are objectified more than men.